
In a green leather album marked 1981 there is a photo with rounded edges. It is slightly overexposed and beginning to yellow with time. Three women and a baby are seated on an overstuffed floral couch. Underneath the photo reads the caption “Four Generations”.
I am this infant, six months old, surrounded and protected by my mother, my grandmother, my great-grandmother. I am sitting on my mother’s lap, my beautiful mother with her honey colored hair and deep brown eyes. She is looking down at me and smiling. To her left is her mother, petite and lovely, her blue blouse ironed and perfect. She is looking at my mother and her eyes twinkle. And to her left sits my great-grandmother, wrinkled with time and hard work, the only one looking at the camera with her Mona Lisa smile. Her dress is floral like the couch.
I love this photo. I MARVEL at this photo. The rareness of having four generations together, alive, on a couch. Thirty years later, my mother and I are the only surviving members of this photo.
At that point in my life I also had four generations alive on my father’s side. And, as we expect from life, the generations have been peeled away, sometimes in order, sometimes not. With the passing of my grandmother on 2/4/12, we are all gone now - except for me. When I think of this – that I would be alone on that generational couch - it makes me sad. Sad, lonely, and even a little scared. Because with those layers peeled away and gone, there I am, exposed to the world. I’m next up at bat. I can no longer hide behind an older generation to get it right, to do it first, to fix the problem. It is my turn to step up to the plate. It is my turn to be the oldest of the generations, to be wizened by hard work and reality and time. It is my turn to get up off the couch and be the woman, the possibility – of everything that I was born to be. And I rise up, despite the loneliness at being left behind and the fear of navigating the uncharted waters of life and adulthood. I rise up and accept the challenge that every one who ever came before me accepted. I accept the challenge of the certainty that we will all come and go, that we will all exist and then not exist, and that the only things that can truly be left behind are those intangible things like love and wisdom and knowledge that can’t be photographed on a couch. But if they could be - if they were visible to the eye and I could take them out - these qualities of my ancestors - and set them down next to me on that couch, it would be apparent that they have not left me behind at all, and are, in fact, alive and well. Living in me, living in you, and living in all of us who walk this earth in search of love and peace.











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